The top 10 ways to waste your time

ways to waste your time

We all know that our time is limited and we should put our precious time to good use. So, why are we not doing that? Why are we wasting so much of our time doing things we don’t like, that don’t help us, being frustrated and angry? I think one reason is because we’re afraid to go after our dreams. We are too afraid to fail. ‘Yeah, I could spend this evening taking the first step in making my dream come true (setting up your own business, planning a world trip, learning to play the guitar, etc.). Or… I could just watch TV, there’s a rather good show tonight. Yeah, let’s do that, I’ll take that first step tomorrow’. Of …

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To you, my brother

To you, my brother

For years, I’ve neglected you, merely tolerated you, seen you as competition. Your strength made me feel inadequate and your weakness made me feel strong in comparison. When you connected with a girl, I felt jealous; it felt like I had lost something, even when I had never spoken to her, or liked her in the first place. I avoided you because you made me feel uncomfortable. Interacting this way with you, my brother, made me feel weak, alone and I compensated by seeking validation from others, mostly women. Seeking this approval didn’t help me, I know see it led me further from my core. Lately, I’ve started to see your value. For the first time in my life, I …

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Can you be intimate without being sexual?

Most people love to touch the ones they are fond of. At the same time, touching others is often shrouded in anxiety: what if I do something wrong, go too far, or inadvertently touch the ‘wrong’ body part? Because of this anxiety to touch someone in the wrong way, or be touched in the wrong way, many of us chicken out and refrain from touching at all, especially in the Western world. We distance ourselves from others, barely touching, only when it cannot be avoided. The effect is that many feel alone, cut off from others. Is there another way? Can you be intimate without being sexual and reclaim touching, intimacy, in such a way that it serves us instead of …

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Connecting with people: going all in

connecting with people

Sometimes you reach a breaking point; the moment you feel that what you’re doing is not working. I feel a breaking point at this moment in how I connect (or fail to connect) with others. It feels like everyone knows how to connect; how to bond, how to form a connection and to expand on it. For me, it feels like I’ve been trying and it doesn’t work. I feel stuck. For sure, I was missing something in connecting with people, and I couldn´t quite grasp what it is. Feeling lost is a great place to be For quite some time, I felt I wanted to form stronger connections with people. At the same time, I didn’t know how. It …

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How to live your own life, the pirate’s way!

How to live your own life

The life of a pirate: full of adventures, side to side with daring explorers, treading unexplored ground, how exciting! Unfortunately, most people don’t dare to take such a drastic approach to life. They trod through life, today a copy of the day before, instead of following their dreams. The good news is that if you dare to live up to your full potential, are willing to find out how to live your own life, you are in for a treat! Starting on this path was probably the best decision of my life. If you want to learn about the characteristics of the proud pirate, how they live and what distinguishes them from other people, read more about following the way …

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The Way of the Pirate

The way of the pirate

Life offers a choice: how do you want to live? Will you simply live the life others expect you to live? Or are you willing to be different, to be wrong, to fail, to succeed, to be you? This is the way of the pirate. It is a risky venture; you might end up without a job, facing your worst fears, losing the friends who choose to judge you… and still be happier than ever before. The way of the pirate is not for the feeble minded. In this context, I believe there are two types of people; there are sheep and there are pirates. The way of the pirate offers a different approach to life than the one advocated …

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Life in the matrix

Life in the matrix

How do you choose to live your life? This is arguably the most important question of all; it defines the way your life will unfold itself and how you perceive it. Yet, people rarely think about it. Sure, they think about where to spend the next holiday, contemplate switching to a different job, or changing to a different brand of toothpaste, but on a deeper level? Sadly not so much. We often forget that we have in fact total freedom to live our lives. You are born and you will die. Those to facts are engraved in stone; the rest is basically up to you. There are limiting factors though. You don’t have to take them into account, but many …

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What kind of relationship do I want?

What kind of relationship do I want

A relationship is often a very important part of your life that may fill you with love and joy, or it may be a pit of despair that casts a shadow on your entire life. Therefore, it is very important to ask: what kind of relationship do I want? Yet, little people take the time and the courage to ask themselves freely: what do I want? What it is I don’t want? And what do I want to learn? For a while now, I’ve been searching what kind of relationship I want to be in. I have had wonderful experiences the last years and some of them served me and some didn’t. It is easy to lose yourselves in the patterns of …

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Finding your limits

finding your limits

Many people are not aware of their limits and often go well beyond what they can handle. Doing so for a prolonged time often leads to a burnout or a depression. Finding your limits are and respecting them is crucial in having a happy, fulfilling life. I will illustrate this article with my own, personal journey. How I discovered my limits and learned to respect them, after ignoring my limits for years. Disrespecting my limits – the long way down For years, I was happy to be very stress resistant. No matter how little time was left, no matter how many things still had to be done, no matter what things went wrong, I was always able to keep calm and …

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The Three Levels in Conscious Sex

conscious sex

I love sex; I love the ecstatic rush, the flowing feeling of deep and unconditional love, the animalistic lust, taking complete control, absolute surrender. I love it when two souls, two bodies – or more 😉 – connect and make such magic happen. However, because sex stirs up so many emotions and feelings, it can be a tricky subject. Take for instance the question when to have sex? With whom do you have sex? And for what reasons? These questions have been on my mind a lot over the last year, and I think I have found an answer. A hangover after great sex Over the last year, I have been focusing on intimacy a lot, becoming comfortable with touch with …

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